Painting of a lyre (stringed instrument).What is questioned is why some stay and try to
have a relationship and others do not.
The ones who stay in their present relationship are
the individuals who are willing to work on the
differences that have been imposed from possible
negative attachments of the past, and willing to
search for how to separate one’s true self from one’s
false self. The false self being has been projected
onto us since birth. Our survival as human beings
counts on the connection between the mother and
the child’s emotional brain function. Our right brain
hemisphere (the emotional brain) develops during
the first two years when it absorbs nonverbal
language but learns of the maternal figure’s
emotional brain, such as senses, sounds, music, heart
beat, emotions, smiles, touch.
The paternal figure is dominant in the left brain
hemisphere: cognitive, language skills, and logic
take over usually after the age of three.
So, our templates are built on what moms have
projected onto us as children while in their arms.
The adults in later years who search for self-identity,
and the “true self” versus the “false self,” have had at
least one supportive emotional identity figure in
their lives after the age of three: a father, a neighbor,
a grandparent, a sibling, a teacher, a mentor, or
older siblings who have added to the proper left
brain nurturing following the primary years in
mother’s arms.
The adults who do not stay and address their
internal issues. They will often leave their “comfort
zone,” they will run, yet they always stay fused
internally and, often times, confused. They may not
learn to emotionally separate from their parental
figures but instead they maintain a homeostasis and
familiar patterns elsewhere or they will create their
own spiritual family. Ironically, the closer and more
fused a person is while growing up with their primary
attachment figure, the farther they will want to run,
but rarely do they self identify into discovering their
separate true indentity.
“To be rooted is perhaps the most important
and least recognized need of the human soul.”
—Simone Weil, The Need for Roots
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